The Blog

Welcome to my (sometimes unpredictable)
stream of consciousness

Honest, warm writing on sex, relationships, intimacy, gender and adoption, the same conversations I have in the therapy room, minus the waiting list.

GSRD & Kink

You're Curious About BDSM. Now What?

Maybe you've had a fantasy you've never said out loud. As a kink-aware therapist, I want to give you an honest look inside, not a lecture, just a proper answer.

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Psychosexual

The Orgasm Gap Is Really a Conversation Gap

A new UK survey found men orgasm twice as often as women during partnered sex. That gap nearly vanishes during solo sex. Here is what that really tells us.

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Adult Adoptee Support

The Adoption Story Doesn't End at Placement

86% of UK adoptees say adequate mental health support doesn't exist for them. I'm one of them. On what that lack of support really means, and where to turn.

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GSRD & Kink

Boundaries in Kink and BDSM: The Basics

Boundaries aren't restrictive, they're what turns kink and BDSM into a space of trust, respect and exhilarating exploration. I explain the basics.

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Welcome to my (sometimes unpredictable)stream of consciousness

You're Curious About BDSM. Now What?

The Orgasm Gap Is Really a Conversation Gap

The Adoption Story Doesn't End at Placement

Boundaries in Kink and BDSM: The Basics

Welcome to my (sometimes unpredictable)
stream of consciousness